Nothing can change until the parents change.
All behaviors are learned whether it is your child's behavior or parenting sytle. From the basic concept of Behaviorism a behavior is more likely to re-occur when it is reinforced or followed by something desirable.
The research clearly points to behavioral intervention as the best practices for a number of behavioral diagnosis. If we are to teach our children about being responsible for themselves and their actions we must begin with this concept as a staple in addressing a range of challenges from daily issues to more destructive behaviors.
When we behave as a parent who is able to nurture and yet still set limits we instill a sens of safety and self-trust in our children. Children want and need limits. When rules are set and expectations are clear to children they will also be clear about the result for following or breaking a rule or expectation. The key here is following through with reinforcing what they are doing correctly to ensure it happens again and to avoid the power struggles around something not being done.
This is the most simplistic version of this 'tip' around increasing the behaviors you want to see vs the behaviors you don't want to see.
Happy Parenting!
